Said i value honesty. Yup i do! I need it to know if i've done anything wrong or just plain irritating. Need to know opinions so i can improve myself, make amends, apologize...
Constructive criticism. Definitely would appreciate the honesty and wouldn't take it TOO personally. Wouldn't let that get in the way of friendships. But that doesn't mean i wouldn't feel hurt.
About a week ago, a guy friend asked my opinion on a girl... "
Is she fat", he asked. I was like "
NOOOOO, WHERE GOT, CRAZY AR?", I didn't see anything wrong with her overall!
And then he said she has tummy. Well ok, many girls do, shut up if u don't. =P The girl walked away so i didn't get a better look. Then he added "
I think she drinks beer". Implying she has a beer belly?!
Automatically i said, "
Then i also drink beer lar?"
And he said "
A bit la".
Shit man, the idiot thinks i drink beer! Slapped him! I'm allergic ok?! Then he tried to change topic, ask
E, who was nearby, whether he drinks beer.
Damn damn damn... i'm so fat (in the stomach region) that my friend thinks i drink beer!?!
SHIT, U KNOW. It's one big wake up call to start working out (haven't jogged in over a month cuz of exams). I'm even doing pathetic things like jogging on the spot in the shower everyday. And like, eating 3/4 packet of maggie mee instead of one. Sigh.
On a happier note, in my last post i mentioned that
E calls me
bitch n i call him
ass everyday? Haha. His bestfriend called me bitch too and i automatically replied "
Assssssssss" in the same way i reply
E everytime he calls me
bitch.
It didn't feel right! Haha, it's like... '
ass' is a replacement for 'dear' or something in our case! Haha
Then the other night, over dinner,
E told me he forbids me to call anyone else
ass! AHAAHAHA. He wants
'ass' exclusively to himself! I laughed so much.
Yeah, ok, so he's my ass. =)
Hm... over the past 2 weeks a friend of mine has been receiving
rude anonymous comments in her blog, insulting her looks and cursing her relationship with her boyfriend. Long story, even i am not clear on the details.
However, i defended her wherever and however i could. Wasn't that difficult, the anonymous herself gave us a lot to rebut. I wouldn't say it's entertaining but i did find it
challenging to refrain from cursing back n calling names. It felt great to retort sarcastically n to speak oh-so-diplomatically. =) It's nice to structure a comment in such a way that attempts to get the point across good.
The anonymous ignored my friend's friends who were defending her, including me. It felt like she/he couldn't handle us. Which gave me
some sense of victory! Haha, it seems peaceful there in her blog for about a day now, hope it ends there.
In one of my defensive comments, i said, "And
anonymous, (if) u need a place to vent out, I DARE YOU TO COME TO MY BLOG, I DARE YOU! =) Leave my friend alone."
I have no idea where that came from but it's
nothing i regret. Looking forward to it even. I've never had any useless negative anonymous comments before and i'd like to see how i'd handle it! Hehe. Besides exam's almost over n could use some drama.
Anyway, i've came to a conclusion that anonymous comments do not matter much. It is unreliable. If a friend tells me my flaws, i might take it into consideration. However when someone hides behind the cloak of anonymity and says i have a bad attitude...
how true is the statement? Is it valid?What makes him her say so? In Literature in English SPM (the whole literature paper, not the small component one), my teacher gave me hell over '
sweeping statements'. We had to justify everything. In Monash, assignments have to be referenced to academic journals or newspapers etc or we'd fail instantly.