My First Flame

Always been interested in Blog-wars and what flamers have to 'share'. But never been personally attacked by an anonymous for something i've said (by the way its been about one year since my biggest blog issue so far, the irony).

This is really nothing. Made my heart race and got me thinking a bit. Admit i am offended but it really is nothing, it's just an anonymous, not like the two friends i lost a year ago.

So what did i do?

A friend blogged about this new 10million building of worship and i was rather unhappy with the money spent. So i asked in a comment

"Wow.
But what is the building used for in the other six days of the week??
And errr... isn't it better spending half of the 10 mill on charity?"
Monday, October 02, 2006 9:15:31 PM

and she said

"Sue Lin, church doesn't only operates on Sunday.
And just in case you know, the building itself is a charity from the church."
Monday, October 02, 2006 9:26:47 PM

A lil short so i asked further

"But what do they do in the other six days?
Can explain what u mean by the building itself is a charity from the church??"
Tuesday, October 03, 2006 6:50:25 PM

Before my friend replied...

"Anonymous said...

sue lin, what a stupid statement you had make?! Seems like you are not a christian? So, HI! Because I am not one too. But what you've stated shows how shallow you are. Why not put it this way,forget about staying in your current house. Sell it out to get a smaller one like a government flat and tell them that you need a low cost house because you are doing CHARITY and, forget about enjoying life. Go help in the orphanage house instead of talking nonsense about churches.

To educate you, churches have their administration works to do too. You think they don't have to do any documentation works before the government approves them to build such building? Read more law. People don't only go to church on Sundays. And what she meant by the building itself is a charity. Not quite sure but I think she meant that the existence of the new building is from the donations by the church members. Donations = charity?

J, why do you keep such friends that don't even respct your religion? I am not a Christian but I'd like to say that, don't step away from your own beliefs. It won't do you good. Have faith and all the best"

Tuesday, October 03, 2006 7:13:48 PM

"Anonymous said...

had *made.

ANd Sue Lin, you sure you are a Malaysia that doesn't seems to understand the culture and religions here?"

Tuesday, October 03, 2006 7:14:56 PM


My friend was nice about it

"anonymous, she's just curious.. don't be so harsh
Come on.. we are just learning..
Cheers!"
Wednesday, October 04, 2006 10:35:59 AM


I read the thing only today. Whoa! Heart rate increased man! But i was so touched with my friend! I felt bad cuz i knew i was rude... I should not have done what i did... racial issues/politics/religion are no-no for Blogs. Sensitive issues. I was asking for trouble. So i said:

"Hey, thanks J for being so nice. Sorry, i WAS rude. Really sorry. Thanks, will read your explaination tonight, busy day ahead, just popping by."
Thursday, October 05, 2006 10:08:53 AM

Really felt bad to my friend. She's sooo sweet...

"Sue, you were not rude. I am fine with it.
I am sorry for the misunderstanding caused though :/"
Thursday, October 05, 2006 5:48:11 PM

She even smsed me to talk about it. She was concerned if i was hurt. I find that so sweet! I mean... it was my fault laaaaa. None of the RM10million is my money, why should i care if it was spent on a place of worship?

And i talked to my friend about it today (during poll clerk duty =P) and he made me realize that religion did help a lot of people. Maybe religion hasn't helped me in a big way yet, but i can't deny that it has helped many others (i have my opinion on that but i shall keep it to myself).

Also, though the "sell house part" and the "forget about enjoying" part really got me, it is true. I should stop my "i promote charity!" shit, shouldn't i? BTW, i'm donating blood tomorrow, join me?

After much thought (and praising myself for not feeling too insulted by this flamer), i commented:

"anonymous, I thank you for making me realize things. I admit i am wrong but you could have said it in a nice way. Yes, you are doing a better job at respecting other religions than me. I admire that and will learn from you in that particular area. However, you should learn to be more diplomatic and humble."
Thursday, October 05, 2006 9:59:39 PM

I also added a one liner in the comment about the anonymous's grammar. This sentence alone is terrible! "you sure you are a Malaysia that doesn't seems to understand the culture and religions here?"

I think the 'Oh So Perfect Citizen' meant "Are you sure you are a Malaysian? You don't seem to understand the culture and the religions practiced here."

Terrible usage of punctuations, fragmented sentence structure...

I should stop this too. Every time i see a flamer i don't like in Malaysian blogs, i tend to criticize their grammar... Haha, i guess it is kind of human nature. You are judged by the way u present yourself. If met this anonymous in person, i'd find faults in her/his appearances. But since this is purely and entirely in text, i target his/her grammar...

Enough la. Gotta go.


Note: Please do not defend me or anything in my friend's blog, u may read it but please please don't comment on the issue, i do not want to make it a big matter. Did not want to even leave a link at first.


Note (Added 9.45pm 6 October): I bolded some of the words. And I am not responsible for any of the comments posted here except for those posted by me.