My First Flame

Always been interested in Blog-wars and what flamers have to 'share'. But never been personally attacked by an anonymous for something i've said (by the way its been about one year since my biggest blog issue so far, the irony).

This is really nothing. Made my heart race and got me thinking a bit. Admit i am offended but it really is nothing, it's just an anonymous, not like the two friends i lost a year ago.

So what did i do?

A friend blogged about this new 10million building of worship and i was rather unhappy with the money spent. So i asked in a comment

"Wow.
But what is the building used for in the other six days of the week??
And errr... isn't it better spending half of the 10 mill on charity?"
Monday, October 02, 2006 9:15:31 PM

and she said

"Sue Lin, church doesn't only operates on Sunday.
And just in case you know, the building itself is a charity from the church."
Monday, October 02, 2006 9:26:47 PM

A lil short so i asked further

"But what do they do in the other six days?
Can explain what u mean by the building itself is a charity from the church??"
Tuesday, October 03, 2006 6:50:25 PM

Before my friend replied...

"Anonymous said...

sue lin, what a stupid statement you had make?! Seems like you are not a christian? So, HI! Because I am not one too. But what you've stated shows how shallow you are. Why not put it this way,forget about staying in your current house. Sell it out to get a smaller one like a government flat and tell them that you need a low cost house because you are doing CHARITY and, forget about enjoying life. Go help in the orphanage house instead of talking nonsense about churches.

To educate you, churches have their administration works to do too. You think they don't have to do any documentation works before the government approves them to build such building? Read more law. People don't only go to church on Sundays. And what she meant by the building itself is a charity. Not quite sure but I think she meant that the existence of the new building is from the donations by the church members. Donations = charity?

J, why do you keep such friends that don't even respct your religion? I am not a Christian but I'd like to say that, don't step away from your own beliefs. It won't do you good. Have faith and all the best"

Tuesday, October 03, 2006 7:13:48 PM

"Anonymous said...

had *made.

ANd Sue Lin, you sure you are a Malaysia that doesn't seems to understand the culture and religions here?"

Tuesday, October 03, 2006 7:14:56 PM


My friend was nice about it

"anonymous, she's just curious.. don't be so harsh
Come on.. we are just learning..
Cheers!"
Wednesday, October 04, 2006 10:35:59 AM


I read the thing only today. Whoa! Heart rate increased man! But i was so touched with my friend! I felt bad cuz i knew i was rude... I should not have done what i did... racial issues/politics/religion are no-no for Blogs. Sensitive issues. I was asking for trouble. So i said:

"Hey, thanks J for being so nice. Sorry, i WAS rude. Really sorry. Thanks, will read your explaination tonight, busy day ahead, just popping by."
Thursday, October 05, 2006 10:08:53 AM

Really felt bad to my friend. She's sooo sweet...

"Sue, you were not rude. I am fine with it.
I am sorry for the misunderstanding caused though :/"
Thursday, October 05, 2006 5:48:11 PM

She even smsed me to talk about it. She was concerned if i was hurt. I find that so sweet! I mean... it was my fault laaaaa. None of the RM10million is my money, why should i care if it was spent on a place of worship?

And i talked to my friend about it today (during poll clerk duty =P) and he made me realize that religion did help a lot of people. Maybe religion hasn't helped me in a big way yet, but i can't deny that it has helped many others (i have my opinion on that but i shall keep it to myself).

Also, though the "sell house part" and the "forget about enjoying" part really got me, it is true. I should stop my "i promote charity!" shit, shouldn't i? BTW, i'm donating blood tomorrow, join me?

After much thought (and praising myself for not feeling too insulted by this flamer), i commented:

"anonymous, I thank you for making me realize things. I admit i am wrong but you could have said it in a nice way. Yes, you are doing a better job at respecting other religions than me. I admire that and will learn from you in that particular area. However, you should learn to be more diplomatic and humble."
Thursday, October 05, 2006 9:59:39 PM

I also added a one liner in the comment about the anonymous's grammar. This sentence alone is terrible! "you sure you are a Malaysia that doesn't seems to understand the culture and religions here?"

I think the 'Oh So Perfect Citizen' meant "Are you sure you are a Malaysian? You don't seem to understand the culture and the religions practiced here."

Terrible usage of punctuations, fragmented sentence structure...

I should stop this too. Every time i see a flamer i don't like in Malaysian blogs, i tend to criticize their grammar... Haha, i guess it is kind of human nature. You are judged by the way u present yourself. If met this anonymous in person, i'd find faults in her/his appearances. But since this is purely and entirely in text, i target his/her grammar...

Enough la. Gotta go.


Note: Please do not defend me or anything in my friend's blog, u may read it but please please don't comment on the issue, i do not want to make it a big matter. Did not want to even leave a link at first.


Note (Added 9.45pm 6 October): I bolded some of the words. And I am not responsible for any of the comments posted here except for those posted by me.

Great Day

Saw this attention grabbing notice written in many different highlighters on the notice boards on the way to class. Decided to read it after class. Sounds like a psycho!

The girl lost a gift and she says she's super stressed with her first year second semester assignments and claims to be suicidal. The notice was 4 pages or so long. She even offered lunch as a reward.

The described item lost sounded familiar. Vague memories of the it played in my mind, was it a dream? I thought for a while and it became clearer. I did see it on Monday when i was photocopying my academic transcripts for the internship.

Sent and sms. Added: "Hope it helps!". Received a reply not long after, offering me lunch. I was like "err... u go see if its there or not first".

And guess what she already claimed it! The girl seemed a bit scary from her notice. So i smsed E to let him know where i was and even sent him her number for safety.

She called me and since i had no one to eat with, i decided to go for it! She seemed normal! Chirpy and talkative and nowhere near suicidal lar. And i've seen her around. Monash Business Club. Not bad lar the lunch! We discussed the ball, politics (Monash politics) and other general stuff. =)

Then i went for my duties as a poll clerk. It was fun! Talked away with a friend when no one was voting... i was getting paid RM5 an hour to hang out and make new friends! Haha.

Stupid blur me cancelled the wrong name even! I dunno how come my luck is so good, the wrong name i cancelled happen to be that girl's sister and she happened to be right there too! They were voting together!

Met with another friend who studied in the campus i'm going to next year. Gave me pointers and maps and tips on living in Monash University Peninsula! =)

And then traffic was totally clear to Midvalley! E and i watched The Devil Wears Prada! Wednesday rates! =) Good seats, great movie. Relates a lot to the current state i'm in... sacrifices and the choices you make in work.

Elections and Blogging

Monash Elections are going on this week, i'm an insignificant poll clerk. Aka i get paid (RM5 an hour) to look after the ballots and initiate the voting etc. Havent started my shifts yet though.

Anyway, its not supposed to be about me.

There was campaigning, debating, rebutting and the floor was allowed to ask questions. Too bad i went for lunch with the very newly founded "Laughing Association" when some action took place. There was slandering. One of the... people running for a post Blogs and apparently he/she blogged about a local issue and criticised some people of a particular race in his post.

His/her post was printed and distributed by the people who were unhappy about him/her! And the words he used were highlighted!

I wish i could have witnessed it, being a blogger myself... i have no idea how bad it was, the one who told me about it wasn't very descriptive, so i don't have the details.

But judging from the highlighted words i read, he/she wasn't degrading the whole race, it just so happen that the people he was condemning was of that race and he/she condemned them for failing to help prevent crime (or something of that sort)...

Don't know. Gotta be extra careful, u never know who reads your blog and u never know who would use it against you and when


That aside, i met V, one of my Blogger friends in uni today! I called her out of the blue to get help (friend's car got towed and i remembered reading her blog about cars being towed in Sunway). Thanks girl!

She happened to pass by where i was sitting a minute after that and she called out to me. Great meeting u! I'm usually around there if u wanna come by for a chat =)

Inside

Been really stressed on and off. I know the internship is not necessary but i can't rest whenever i imagine myself poor in the future. I can't let that happen. I can't, i can't!!

Its not like i've ever been dirt poor, but just imagining makes me scared till i can't breath. I have never said it out loud, but inside, i am jealous to the core whenever i hear two friends talking about going for hotel buffets with their boyfriends. My heart has turned into the deepest shade of green once too often.

E and i can never afford it, and neither of our parents are willing to spend that kind of money on a single meal, not even on a special occasion. E and i only went to Shangri-La when it was for free.

I do not wanna be 30 years old and say, what have i achieved? I'm only twenty and when i look back at my childhood, i see no achievements! I can't dance, i only have a stupid green belt in taekwando, i don't play the piano, i never finished more than 3 art classes. I was never an athelete...

Just Blogging this scares me. Thank god i somehow realized the importance of being active in extra-curricular activities when i was in form 3. Yeah, i hated them like shit. But i went.

I never got the post President, but i was given treasurer once, and secretary once.

I can never beat my Study Partner, but i am just a step or two behind her. My resume turned out ok. I guess. And i managed to hand it out to one of the accounting big four firms today (if u wanna know which, ask on msn). I am lucky to have her as a close friend, she helped me a lot. The angel CM too. SC too... and thanks M for looking after my stupid laptop while i photostate my academic transcripts! KM, thanls for forwarding me the mail, will apply for the other accounting big four soon.

I really must be above average when i grow up, i must!... i don't want to say no to charity volunteers who stalk me. I want to be able to give RM10 or maybe even a fifty.

I don't wanna be a fat auntie, i already a very flabby stomach n cellulite in my thighs as a twenty year old, how much fatter would i be after i give birth? And with the shitty schedule accountants get, i'm gonna need a very expensive gym membership. I have to be able to pay for it without feeling extra pressure that would add wrinkles to my face.

Oh yeah, and i possibly might need plastic surgery when i'm much older. And i wanna be able to afford it. I am only half kidding here.

I haven't started wanting cars and condos yet... but i'm sure i will one day

Rude Awakening

This time last week i was happily Blogging about the ball. This time last week i was ecstatic and carefree as it was the beginning of the week-long holidays and i handed out an assignment early. Tonight, today, its back to reality.

1. Uncompleted assignment due tomorrow
2. I'm coughing and my nose is runnning away
3. So shitted. Put off writing resume for 3 (THREE) weeks already! My future is looking dim, not very bright at all... And it looks like i am not shortlisted for the CPA internship, the only internship i applied for. Sigh.

Study Partner got an email from Singapore, informing her that she was shortlisted. They'd be calling her for a 10 minute phone interview sometime this week. Lucky girl. I was right with her when she read the email. And i checked mine. Nothing. Remembered that i used a different more formal email add to apply for the internship. Checked that one. Nothing

She's gonna go so much further in life than me. And so much faster. I'm i'm... i'm... i don't know! She tried to help me. But i'm such a lazy bum. Only wrote 100 words when the word limit is 500. She wrote 496 words or something like that! Impressive shit!

Accounting Issues lecturer said to us "If u earn only RM10,000 in ten years time, don't come and see me". Implying that if we earn RM10,000 by the time we're 30 years old, its no where near good enough!? What the?!?

As accounting students, we are supposed to climb the damned corporate ladder. Will i ever make it up or will i slide down the snakes?